Mirrors, mirrors. Aren’t we all?

People can be so annoying. Especially when they show me something about myself I don’t want to see.

It happened at a recent Meetup. One of my fellow students of Tarot read her cards with fluttering hands and plenty of mystical drama. Normally, I would chalk it up to personal style and perhaps find it amusing. This time, it irritated me.

Why? If I needed to justify my feeling, I’d point to the way she spouted prognostications as set-in-stone truths. This precludes free will and thus violates my code as a Tarot reader.

But that very afternoon, I’d rolled my eyes while telling a friend about a client’s infatuation with the mystical trappings commonly assigned to the intuitive and psychic sides of life.

What was my beef?

Time to look in the mirror

Truth is, I was once as infatuated as my client. And while I’ve not indulged in the kind of hand-fluttering as my fellow reader, I recognize it as a symptom of the same thing.

It seemed my irritation stemmed from being reminded of a version of myself I’ve left behind. But if I’d truly left it behind, I’d feel compassion rather than irritation.

My irritation carried the ugly whiff of judgment. And now that I’ve noticed it, other examples are popping up. They represent different areas of my past/beliefs/self-image. Facing these mirrors challenges me. It’s uncomfortable to admit to feeling judgmental, of myself and/or of others.

It helps to remind myself that I’ve grown–I’m experiencing these feelings from a perspective never before possible for me.

In other words, it’s okay to be where I am today. It’s merely my opportunity to embrace what I see in the mirror, and to appreciate the people who show it to me.

What are your mirrors showing lately? How do you handle it?

Photo credit (mirror): Elizabeth/Table4Five

2 Replies to “Mirrors, mirrors. Aren’t we all?”

  1. I have a friend who mimics me. I do not see it as the height of flattery. I want to tell her to find her own fingerprint…why go around like a carbon copy?

    Yes, I’m being judgmental. The good side of it? It makes me look at the women I really admire. Often when I’m about to do something, I wonder if this is how they would like it, or want it…

    Mirror, mirror – I thought I was tall! :D

    1. Sounds like your friend is trying you on, like a new pair of shoes, to figure out whether the style looks good on her. I did this with my writing as a teen, adopting the style of my writing heroes. (Once, I even went so far as to copy an author’s handwriting!) It taught me a lot about how word choice and sentence structure influenced the mood and pace of a story. Eventually, my own voice emerged.

      Here’s hoping your insecure friend finds her own voice soon.

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